Akron, OH Family Photographer – Celebrating 10 years of marriage
10 years ago today I walked down the aisle and married my best friend.
Now, that being said, it has certainly not been all rainbows and butterflies (to quote the other love of my life). It’s been freaking hard work. Harder than just about anything I have ever done in my life. And it takes work, every.single.day.
Being married is hard! If you’re single or in a newer relationship you won’t understand this. Until you are in it, knee deep wondering what in the hell you have done to yourself, you won’t understand this. It ain’t for the weak. There have certainly been days that I just don’t want to do it anymore. Days that I’m tired of trying and just want to give up. Yep, in the past 10 years I have certainly had those days. Probably a lot of them if we are honest with each other.
There have been times that I didn’t think we would make it out alive. Seriously.
We have been through so much in the past 10 years.
From buying a new car, to a home, to becoming parents! Finding out what it is like to bring home a new baby and a level of exhaustion that you didn’t realize was possible.
To finding out that we were expecting again only to then be told the most earth shattering news ever. To living with that and then ultimately watching our daughter die.
To having the faith to have another baby after saying goodbye to Quinn.
And then to have a 4th, surprise baby to turn our world upside down, now having more kids than hands but would ultimately make our family complete.
To growing a life with these little monsters.
It has been so much work. Choosing every day to make this life together.
Every day we choose to make this life what it is. We choose to put in the heart and dedication and decide that we want our relationship to be what it is. Knowing that by making that decision we are going to have to work and sometimes put our own needs and wants behind each others.
You see, while being a parent isn’t easy (hello understatement), it is actually a whole lot easier than being married. While being a parent you also have to be selfless and give (even when you don’t really want to) to another, you do it because no matter what you love that goober with all of your heart.
But when you are married, you have to decide to love the other person – they are not a part of you, they didn’t come from you. You actually have to decide that you want to love them, you want to give and take with them, that you want them there. You actually have to make the decision and then you actually have to do the work to make the decision last.
Even knowing today all that I know and all we have been through and how much work it would be,
I would still do it all over again!
Every second of it.
All of the tears and fights.
All of the smiles and inside jokes.
All of the ups and downs.
All of it has been worth it because this life that we choose to live together is pretty damn amazing. It isn’t perfect but it’s ours and it’s amazing.
Thank you for always pushing me and believing in me. Thank you for supporting this crazy dream of mine to be a photographer. Thank you for letting me take over your man-cave with props and the basement for the studio. Thank you for being such a wonderful father to our girls. Thank you for loving me even when I am an amazing pain-in-the-ass.
I know that we aren’t perfect, but I don’t want perfect, I want us.
Thank you for choosing this life with me and our girls. It’s been a hell of a ride these past 10 years. I can’t wait to see what the next 10 brings (hopefully no more kids :)).
I love you!
Akron, OH Family Photographer Quinn Elise Photography servicing the greater Akron area.